Crossing Oceans: Vol. 2 | Anonymous

Hello everyone! It has been a week now since I had my very first LDR/Interracial couple in the hot seat. Since the segment is doing good, I might considering posting 2 couples this week. How about that?

Anyways, I am happy I was able to interview another couple that come from Asia and Europe. But they chose to stay low profiled. And I respect that. For a small details about them, they're a cute couple and I admire how they bring about each other's side in a very unique way as a post on their Instagram account.

So, let's start the Q&A. :)

How did you and your partner meet?
we knew about each other (first time) in an aviation forum and really met each other as friend for the first time in Amsterdam Airport during our business trip

How long have you guys been together?
married for 9 months, total being together for 3 years

What is your & your partner's nationality?
indonesian - german

What is the biggest pet peeve in your relationship?
he annoys me during cooking in kitchen and i love to bite him (ears and nose) but ofc he doesn’t like that

How do you deal with your interracial differences?
well we tolerate, accept each other and ofc always be open minded

What was the worst problem you've encounter in your relationship?
we dont have that much problem ummm but there was an issue that took long time to be solved: me finding job in Germany 😅 but it‘s solved know. This is crucial because my saving money is running out to support me to live here. If I dont work then worst case I have to fly back and work in indonesia

What quality do you like most about your partner?
accepting me for who i am

What was the best gift you have ever received from your partner?
he gave me an original jersey of Buffon!

What was the greatest sacrifice you've done for your partner so far?
move and live here in Germany, start all the stuffs from zero

What makes your relationship unique and special?
we are not only a lover but also best friends and family. We are a perfect team where most of the time, we understand each other without saying even a word. We know us super well

What do you look forward to in your relationship on the next 10 years?
being a happy family with kid(s) and having a settled job, house, life..

What advice can you give to other LDR couples out there?
Be realistic. Ldr isn’t a trend to be followed. It‘s not something cool or that will bring you to a higher "position" or recognition in society. But if life brings you there, you are meant to be with each other, no matter what happens, all will bring you to each other as long as you keep on trying and believing. And closing distance isn’t a goal, that would be a beginning of more tests. Ldr isn't the hardest part, the hardest part will come once you live together

This photo was grabbed from their account with permission.

I agree with what she said that we should always be realistic. Life isn't a fantasy or a dream that you can just wake up when you're having nightmares.

So, that's it! See you again guys on my next feature!

the sunday currently | vol. 7

Hello everyone! It was a nice day today again! I don't have work, so as my husband, so we went to the cinema and watched my favorite Mission Impossible movie with some friends. It was nice having a day off after a whole week of work. Anyhow, I am happy too to have new readers for my blog. I've received a direct message from Instagram saying that my posts are informative. Ohh, that makes me happy. It means that I don't only post crappy stuffs here. Hahaha.

So currently, I am...

Reading and looking for Tiramisu recipe online. My husband asked me if we can have that dessert one of these days. And actually, I am thinking of making refrigerated cake for dessert. Too bad that I did not pursued it, he must have had his craving the past days already. Last time, I was at a supermarket and I have the ingredients in my hands already. But knowing that I only have limited cash that time, I returned everything. Maybe, tomorrow, I will o back to the supermarket and finally buy them.

Writing plots for my job because this month is going to be a blast. It will be a very busy month for me and for my husband. We will go to Manila for a 3-day convention, we will try to get a schengen visa for me, and we will try to prepare for our trip to the Netherlands. I hope it will not be a toxicating month. I hope we will still find time to watch movies and so. Anyways, I am not anxious about those things. I know we will have time to bond with each other, no matter what.

Listening to nothing. At the moment, I am not in the mood to listen to anything.

Thinking of making a request to have a special plotting for work.

Smelling the odd wet ground smell because of the nonstop rain this weekend. I think I'll be brushing out the concrete floor at the back of the house again.

Wishing to receive my passport this week, since they said that it will arrive of the 2nd of August, but, of course, I doubt that.

Hoping for the time to slow down a bit. I cannot keep the pace. It was super fast! Haha.

Wearing my pajamas which are partnering up. It is a blue Hello Kitty, a gift from my mom.

Loving the grocery haul we did last night, wuhoo! We have food again!

Wanting to make a dessert for GJ. Maybe, I will make avocado ice cream today. We got lots of them from my parents yesterday. And also, bags of jackfruit. Yummy!

Needing finish this blog post so I can work on the dummy schedule that I made.

Feeling sleepy. I watched another Mission Impossible last night after the cinema. So I stayed awake til 12 midnight. Can't get enough of Tom Cruise I guess. LOL.

Watching noting at the moment. But maybe, I will watch another Mission Impossible movie again later while doing something in the kitchen. Why not?

So I think that's it! How about you? How was your week so far?

Skip The Ordinary

Last Wednesday, I had an appointment to go somewhere at 1 in the afternoon. I was afraid that I will be late so I take the courage and I outrageously brought my husband's bike to the place I needed to be. It is actually not a bike, the one with pedal. It is an electric bike, quite heavy for me, since I only weigh 49 kilograms these days. When I calculated the distance, it was only 1.5km (approximately). So I thought, it is not that far. I can drive from here to there and I can probably go back.

On my way there, I got problems with my stuff so I stopped in the side to arrange it. Unconsciously, I was not pressing the break but instead, steering more the accelerate handle bar. You know what happened next? I bumped myself into a signage. I was surprised too! After few seconds, I came back to myself and I continued driving. It was fun actually, but scary at the same time.

I have drove cars (van and owner-type jeep) before (by the way, I am a licensed driver, though I do not have a car. Haha.) but never an electric bike. While I am on my way, I thought that driving on a bike is really dangerous compared to driving a car. On an e-bike, I do not have any covering for myself in case I will have an accident, compared to a car, which I am super enclosed while driving.

Anyhow, it was a nice experience though. After that, when I was going home, I called my husband to pick me up. I don't want to worry him. I am not that keen on driving so I rather keep on practicing first, most specially on steering, one of the difficult things I find.

But still, I never regretted what I did. It was another experience, and now, no one can take it away from me. I love trying new things. Next time, I will just be very mindful and cautious. Hihi.

Crossing Oceans: Vol. 1 | Shaun & Angel

Are you super focused with your own relationship? Why not take a while and see how others are doing! Just like what I've mentioned in my co intro (Crossing Oceans serie), my very first featured LDR couple will be the one who helped me had an idea on what interesting post I can have on this awesome blog of mine. LOL. Kidding aside, And I am so happy that Ms. Angel favorably agreed to be highlighted on my blog. And actually, I was overwhelmed by the number of couples who participated on this serie. There's so much to look forward to!



Anyhow, here's just a little background on how I came to know them. I was using the new account I made for the couple thingy of me and my husband, when I bumped into her account. They got an instant follow from me (which I forgot when was that actually, probably few months ago already). I like how they portray their commitment online. I've also witnessed online one of their meetups when Shaun went back to the Philippines. Angel's life as a full time office staff while doing vlogs, surprising her partner with amazing gifts like personalized cards and inspires me too. So now, let's see how they cope and pass trials when it comes to their long distance and interracial relationship.

the sunday currently | vol. 6

First off! Good evening everyone! I hope you guys are doing good. It has been months since the last time I made an update for this series. Since I've been working on a new one, I think it is better to retain the others. So, the niche won't just go around and around the same boring topics. Anyways, the week went well so far. I felt better now than the previous weeks, where I felt very light headed and groggy. The doctor's findings never said I'm having some sort of illness. So I assumed that it is just because I was dehydrated. I then take a lot of sweat replacement drink like Gatorade.

Reading some answers sent to me by other LDR couples from Instagram. I am enjoying knowing how they handle their relationship.

Writing more blogs for this account, because I just found out that this is too awesome to just ignore and keep aside. LOL.

Listening some Tagalog songs from Spotify. I want my husband to pick up some Tagalog words, though he already knows some. And reflecting on the love songs I used to listen to when I was young, those songs really never get old. They are still as beautifu as they were the first time I've heard them on the radio with my favorite DJ on the favorite night program in highschool. Hays, time flies so fast. I am now living a new life away from that life.

Thinking about the dummy schedule I need to draft for the leave at work. The following months will be busy, for sure, because of paperworks for my visa. You know how hussle it can be right?

Smelling the rain (?). I don't know how to say but, it is raining the whole day with extreme wind and thunder. We went out using the bike and we were soaked in the rain like a wet chick (as per say in the Philippines).

Wishing to have my passport on time and have a visa for September. It won't be nice if we will be separated for 3 months considering that we are just newly weds.

Hoping for a continuous part time job offers that will never hinder the primary work we do, preaching.

Wearing my very old black and floral blouse I got from my aunt (who's now my ex-aunt because she and my uncle got divorced, but I still love her to bits!). It is a little bit torn out already but it is so comfy that I can't even let it go.

Loving the idea that I am active on blogging again. The fact that I have never ending ideas makes me so happy!

Wanting eat something before going to bed. Although we had ramen already for dinner, I still feel a little bit hungry.

Needing to wash our bed sheets because we do not have something to sleep on anymore. I wasn't able to wash the first one because it is always raining and I am afraid that it will not smell as nice as the others. So yeah, maybe, tomorrow before leaving home, I will prioritize the wash. We will just leave the dehumidifier on so it will dry fast.

Feeling tired because it is already midnight, but my head is still telling me, "Sleep is for the weak!". Men! There's a lot of things running through my head.

Watching Suits, an American serie about a smart guy who wasn't able to graduate in Harvard, though it was his ultimate dream, but still had an awesome job at a prestige law firm. I like watching this kind of movie, though sometimes, due to technicality of words about the law, I do not understand. Haha.

So I think that's it! How about you? How was your week so far?

DP Blog Serie: Taking It Out to A New Level!

Few days ago, I've learned another interracial couple having a blog. I was in ecstasy so I never doubted at once but lurk into their website and splurge into their stories. In her account, she featured other interracial couples and that just gave me an idea. After telling her my plans, I never dilly dally and thought of a nice title for the new serie that I will be using to exhibit other LDR couples out there, for their stories be known to the world. Though I am maintaining my blog to be as low profile as possible, I also want to learn how different couples handle their relationships. And I know, that through featuring them, other individuals having issues might get some sense out of it.



Aside from the series that I started (Dating a Dutch Guy, Dear Future Husband and The Sunday Currently), this one will be included on the list and will be posted regularly. I am calling this new serie, Crossing Oceans. Basically, they will be those LDR couples who live miles away from each other and have limited time together due to life status, visa restrictions, international issues, and the likes.

What will you expect on this serie?



There will be a dozen of questions, which I personally handcrafted myself, to assess the status of your relationship. Couples will be requested to answer the q's with all honesty. Being committed means honesty, right?

Don't worry, there's no evaluation that will happen. It is their life anyways. This is just to learn how interconnection works, looking at different perspectives, demography and attitude towards their relationship.

So yes, it sounds exciting, yeah? (Well, for me at least!).

My first LDR couple will be posted very soon. Please stay tuned! Adios!

How To Get PSA (formerly NSO) Marriage Certificate in Less Than 3 Weeks (Newly Married)

Like on how to attain a Certificate of Birth in the Philippines, the method is pretty similar to the one of the Marriage Certificate. But that counts for those who's been married for a year or more already.

Since GJ and I just got married last May, our paper is still new and probably not yet processed by the Census Serbilis Office in Manila. But because we are going to need our certificate very soon (for renewing my passport as change status and for our registration in The Hague, The Netherlands), we found a way on how to rush our paper.

First off, we went to the Marriage Division in the city where we got married and asked if we can have the PSA Certificate in few days. They forwarded us to the PSA Office (within the city still) and asked for a request of immediate transmittal of our certificate. In our Provincial Statistic Office, they gave us a written letter attached on a photocopy of our certificate and advised us to send it through a courier (LBC or JRS). The endorsement letter from the PSA Office did not cost us anything. After 2 weeks, we were advised to file a request at the Census Serbilis Office.



Here are the requirements:
- Personal appearance
- Request letter from the local PSA office
- Accomplished application form (they have forms from their office)
- Valid IDs / Government issued IDs (please bring at least 2, they sometimes ask for another one)
- Fee (Php155)

If you are going to get someone else's certificate, it is better to ask for an authorization letter and an ID from them and your own valid ID, otherwise, your time will just be wasted.

There are always lines for screening and payment (and special lines for elderly, pregnant women and disabled persons). The guard is always ready to help so don't you worry. (Atleast that's what I've experienced.)

After paying, you just need to wait for an hour or more (yes, you read it right! I even waited for 2 hours!) for your name to be called. The releasing of your paper has a line too. But don't worry, that will not take too long. You need to prepare the receipt, the authorization letter (if applicable) and a valid ID.

And viola! You have your certificate!

If you have further q's, don't hesitate to leave them on the comment section below. I would be delighted to help!

Dear Husband (formerly Future Husband)

You may recall that from time to time, I write something to tell to my future husband. It is called An Open Letter series (since everyone can see it). But now that we are already married, here is another way to express my feelings for him through my blog. I am not boasting about how perfect he is, but he is just one of a kind and someone who's impossible to find. I was super fortunate enough to come to know him. (Cheesy!)

Dear husband,

I tried to compile every single thing I learned about you and from that, I was able to create this list I call, "100 Reasons". It might be so mainstream since it seems like everyone's sharing this list. Anyhow, that did not stop me from doing so.

Here it goes.

1. You have a big heart that you don't focus on the bad things about others and just focus on the good ones. We are not perfect but you display so much love for others even they turn their backs on you. They won't see it perhaps, because they just see what's outside. But if they will look deeper, they'll see the sincere, honest YOU.

Marriage: Does It Matter Who Go First?

I always recall the days I and my husband (when we were still courting) spent together strengthening our relationship, building each other's faith up and celebrating the love we had. I believe that these things are essential to make a relationship work. As per our favorite bible passage states, "Two is better than one... For if one of them falls, the other can help his partner up." - Ecclesiastes 4:9, 10. That is also how I saw the secret person of the heart, his motives, and what his real personality is. His goals became attainable for him. He showed me he is someone who is firm to his words, that I can trust what he said, and he never dilly dally in doing what is best. Humans are not perfect, you might say, but that imperfection doesn't need to inhibit any good deeds in the first place. And we are all unique too. We differ from each other and that is certain.

I remembered a friend telling me to be careful, that maybe, I am just seeing through a pink glasses. She was right when she advised me to be diligent and careful, so I did what I have to do to avoid doing anything to make any mistakes. The good thing is, I never did it alone. In our relationship, we both worked together, we both did our parts. We never had downfalls, or we did not have lots of downfalls I should say. Another reason for that is, our families were the best support we can ever had!

So anyway, far from the very long introduction, does it really matter who marries first?

I believe not.

There is no "too young" or "too old" as per say for marriage. It is a bond of union given to us by God. Nobody should decide for you whether you are too young or too old to fall in love and finally tie the knot. Other people can just suggest, but they do not have the last words for one's decision.

If you are in your late 20s or early 30s, people might tell you to tie the knot if you're in a relationship. You can marry whenever you want but please, you should not just fall into someone else's voice telling you what you should do and what you should want. Don't give in to pressure. You are better than that. We are all created to have the sense of thinking, reasoning or judgment. We should all use this freedom wisely. If you have no doubts and really want to marry, then go on. As long as it is in legal terms and so.

If you are young and you've decided, no one can get into you of preventing this to happen. If they want to get married first before you, then kick their butt out and work on it. Marriage isn't a race. It is a personal choice.

And since people have always something to say, they never thought it is a very strong force for others. Can't they just keep it to themselves and shut up? It's funny to think that way because that will never happen. They can just say whatever they want even without thinking just because they have a very shallow reasoning.

I think I have portrayed what my message is. So, I'm out of here. Kbye.